The simple truth is that everyone is different and there is not a "norm" for sexual behavior. People who are having a lot of sex are usually pretty OK with that. Happily, less sex does not automatically equate to less love, happiness and fulfillment. Just make sure that if you both say yes, you really mean to say yes. For most couples, especially those who've been together for a number of years, companionship, reliability and a sense of mutual trust are far more meaningful than a lot of hot, sweaty sex. If a person is getting his or her sexual needs met on the side with regular porn use or in-vivo , he or she is likely to be less interested in sex at home. Lack of sexual interest may also be the result of an underlying psychological condition such as depression, anxiety, drug or alcohol addiction, a behavioral addiction, low self-esteem, unresolved childhood trauma, an attachment deficit disorder, etc.
Setting aside and committing to a time to be emotionally and physically intimate gives you and your partner something to look forward to.
How Much Sex Is Healthy?
You're not necessarily hyper-sexed if you're well above the norm, nor are you automatically under-sexed if you're far below the norm. Usually a little bit of effort is enough to revive a flagging sex life, especially if the emotional connection between you and your partner remains strong. Sure, there are couples out there who've been married for 30 years who're still hot for each other, and good for them. Some people are into a fetish or kink; others are relatively "vanilla. A quick online search will bring up a huge volume of statistics -- most of them not scientifically generated -- regarding the frequency of sex among long-term, committed couples. It might be a turn-on for you, too.